I hope you land on your feet Anthos. If you feel this is the right thing to do then it must be. Although this will be a tough time as you said, it will make you stronger. A line from a small indie film comes to mind,"Why do we fall down..."
Dude thats gonna drive me nuts.
Its Batman Begins right. Its what Thomas Wayne said. Id be more confident but I cant tell if you where being sarcastic about the "small indie film"
Good luck with everything Anthos. As a cop Ive seen a lot of messy divorces and messy child custody issues. If you and your wife are amicable and putting your daughter first I applaud you. Its a lot more than most do.
I did the Big "D" 6 years ago, with 2 girls. Now I have a bad a$$ man cave, an Awesome!!!!! Girl friend who loves Mr. Fixit, the statue and Classic Action Thor, helps me with the statuarium (man cave) and both girls are adults. See happily ever after! I am not being glib, man the pain to make the decision was the toughest!!
look at it like a BLESSING!!! if i didn't get divorced from my first wife, i never would have met my second wife...who is absolutely awesome!!!! things happen for a reason...one door closes and another door opens.
Sorry to hear about this Anthos. I have been through some rough break ups and fallouts over the years so I know too well about the pain that you are going through. It may be a cliche but the only thing that will help ease the pain is time... either that or drugs
Hope that whatever happens between you and your wife in the future will not effect your daughters happiness as she needs both of you in her life.
Sorry to hear this. Sounds like you (and your ex) are at peace with the situation, which is obviously a great thing for your little girl. Wishing you all the best!
Small Update: yesterday was kind of an interesting day. Supposedly my daughter told my wife that daddy was happier when I was just with her and of course that became a little issue. I think my wife is having a harder time adjusting to the overall separation because she's making half hearted overtures of seeing if we can work things out. The problem is we really are just two different people and it would be prolonging the inevitable.
I respect her feelings and try to be sympathetic, but I really have to be steadfast in doing this the best way I know how. At the end of the day,I was the one displaced out of the house so my recovery is going to be harder then hers.
So sorry to hear your news mate, I would stick to your guns and stay clear, it will be much better for you in the long run. I am the manager at a divorce (county) court and have dealt with these matters for 16 yrs. Any advice you may need send me a p.m.
A little update: I should be finished moving my things from the old house this week. I'm feeling a bit down today, I'm still trying to get used to not being with my daughter all the time and that is my main source of melancholy. I was at the grocery store and still find myself picking up the kinds of food my ex wanted me to get, things like fat free milk or a particular kind of deli meat, etc. It really seems like I don't have an identity of my own right now.
My ex seems to be having difficulty as well though it usually manifests in some form of hostility. Nothing extreme, just more of the same I put up with while we were married. More and more I realize I was an employee/room mate in our relationship.
I'm making every effort to not fall into post marriage pitfalls but it seems to be a constant battle, some days I feel weaker than others. Getting "settled in" usually helps for the most part. Weird as it may sound, weekends are the hardest because of all the free time I seem to have.
A little update: I should be finished moving my things from the old house this week. I'm feeling a bit down today, I'm still trying to get used to not being with my daughter all the time and that is my main source of melancholy. I was at the grocery store and still find myself picking up the kinds of food my ex wanted me to get, things like fat free milk or a particular kind of deli meat, etc. It really seems like I don't have an identity of my own right now.
My ex seems to be having difficulty as well though it usually manifests in some form of hostility. Nothing extreme, just more of the same I put up with while we were married. More and more I realize I was an employee/room mate in our relationship.
I'm making every effort to not fall into post marriage pitfalls but it seems to be a constant battle, some days I feel weaker than others. Getting "settled in" usually helps for the most part. Weird as it may sound, weekends are the hardest because of all the free time I seem to have.
I guess that's it for now, wish me luck.
Good luck Anthos! Remember you have us here to talk to
Hi everyone. Things are going better, just plugging away at work and saving to be able to get my own place. The ex and I are getting along pretty well, though I'm suspecting she is having regrets but IMO she's made her bed with this. My little one is doing really good with our situation, better than her mom anyway.
I started going to a divorce support group once a week. I'm really there to hear other experiences and they seem like really good people. Anyway, just a quick update here. Tank you everyone for your kind words and hearing my gripes. Everyday it's getting better.
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